Today I had a date with a french girl who grow up in canada and moved to DC for work. Met her at Okcupid and we met at my usual place Bottom Line.
Prior to the date, I send her the address of the place and asked her to wear her smile. She replied like 3 hours later with "Great, I will see you there". So I reckon she is not completely sold on the date. She also told me she deleted the profile, so may be she is seeing someone on the side, but who knows and cares.
I was at the venue 3 minutes early against my principle of going late around 10 minutes, basically because I have to leave at 8:30 and the date starts at 7.
So we met, I was sitting at the table, and I didnt break eye contact unless she looked away, which is according to the plan. But I didnt smile, which I have to do next time.
Since she is so short, I couldnt read her body language with the legs and later when I got a chance to see it, she was crossing her legs opposite to me, which means she is not that interested.
So immediately I said I'm gonna hit the restroom and take off. When I come back, she is sitting at the same position, so I pulled my seat a little bit away and mirror her body posture away from her.
Up until that time, I was really being cocky and funny and she is also matching the vibe and I was assuming its going on well until I noticed her legs.
So I start qualifying her, to guage the interest and I asked why do you have short hair and when was the last time you wear your heels. She was little defiant about the hair but cordial about her heels.
When the date hit 1 hour mark, I bounced her to the nearest park where I usually make my kiss close. So we are at the park, sitting close and I see she is not really comfortable sitting very close to me, but I didnt pretend it bothers me at all. And about 10 minutes in I asked her, have you ever kissed a guy in the park and she said yes. So I say " Ok lets try that again" and go in for the kiss, and she says no. So I say, "Its alright, I will ask you again after 5 minutes"
So I tried 3 times but I couldnt kiss her, but I can see her interest level going high after each attempt in a way she is looking at me differently. When it hits 8:30 I said I have to go and left. On the way walking together, I said " I will protect you from the bus" which is about 200 meters away and she looks at me eagerly when I said that. Mystery is right, protector of loved ones is really an attraction switch.
But I'm not going to call her, basically because, I dont think she takes care of herself and I really dont feel the urge to fuck her when I saw her. Just another average DC girl, who thinks her personality (minus the self grooming trait) is enough for a guy to fall madly in love with her. Also on the same note, I'm not sure she will see me again, but thats another matter which is not in my radar right now.
Things I did right - Eye contact, looking away while she is talking and eye fucking her while I'm talking.
Not drinking too much, just a beer.
Bouncing to a different place.
Looking for body language clues.
Touching immediately in the date.
Some kind of push pull like, come here give me a hug, but now dont get comfortable too much.
Trying to kiss her, even though when she made sure she dont want to kiss me.
Things to improve
Not running any of my comfort routines, may be because I was not really into her.
Trying to much to be funny, at the expense of being cocky.
Not saying, I'm leaving or some IOD when she said, I dont have to like her. She said that, when she qualified I told her, I dont like people with leadership skills to calibrate.
May be little bit more kino at the bar.
Look at her like I want to fuck her and imagine I'm making out with her.
Prior to the date, I send her the address of the place and asked her to wear her smile. She replied like 3 hours later with "Great, I will see you there". So I reckon she is not completely sold on the date. She also told me she deleted the profile, so may be she is seeing someone on the side, but who knows and cares.
I was at the venue 3 minutes early against my principle of going late around 10 minutes, basically because I have to leave at 8:30 and the date starts at 7.
So we met, I was sitting at the table, and I didnt break eye contact unless she looked away, which is according to the plan. But I didnt smile, which I have to do next time.
Since she is so short, I couldnt read her body language with the legs and later when I got a chance to see it, she was crossing her legs opposite to me, which means she is not that interested.
So immediately I said I'm gonna hit the restroom and take off. When I come back, she is sitting at the same position, so I pulled my seat a little bit away and mirror her body posture away from her.
Up until that time, I was really being cocky and funny and she is also matching the vibe and I was assuming its going on well until I noticed her legs.
So I start qualifying her, to guage the interest and I asked why do you have short hair and when was the last time you wear your heels. She was little defiant about the hair but cordial about her heels.
When the date hit 1 hour mark, I bounced her to the nearest park where I usually make my kiss close. So we are at the park, sitting close and I see she is not really comfortable sitting very close to me, but I didnt pretend it bothers me at all. And about 10 minutes in I asked her, have you ever kissed a guy in the park and she said yes. So I say " Ok lets try that again" and go in for the kiss, and she says no. So I say, "Its alright, I will ask you again after 5 minutes"
So I tried 3 times but I couldnt kiss her, but I can see her interest level going high after each attempt in a way she is looking at me differently. When it hits 8:30 I said I have to go and left. On the way walking together, I said " I will protect you from the bus" which is about 200 meters away and she looks at me eagerly when I said that. Mystery is right, protector of loved ones is really an attraction switch.
But I'm not going to call her, basically because, I dont think she takes care of herself and I really dont feel the urge to fuck her when I saw her. Just another average DC girl, who thinks her personality (minus the self grooming trait) is enough for a guy to fall madly in love with her. Also on the same note, I'm not sure she will see me again, but thats another matter which is not in my radar right now.
Things I did right - Eye contact, looking away while she is talking and eye fucking her while I'm talking.
Not drinking too much, just a beer.
Bouncing to a different place.
Looking for body language clues.
Touching immediately in the date.
Some kind of push pull like, come here give me a hug, but now dont get comfortable too much.
Trying to kiss her, even though when she made sure she dont want to kiss me.
Things to improve
Not running any of my comfort routines, may be because I was not really into her.
Trying to much to be funny, at the expense of being cocky.
Not saying, I'm leaving or some IOD when she said, I dont have to like her. She said that, when she qualified I told her, I dont like people with leadership skills to calibrate.
May be little bit more kino at the bar.
Look at her like I want to fuck her and imagine I'm making out with her.
